couples Therapy in California & NEW YORK
Convenient and Flexible Couples Therapy
Couples therapy offers a transformative approach for partners seeking to improve their relationship.
Couples often seek therapy when they experience recurring conflicts, emotional disconnection, and communication breakdowns that lead to feelings of loneliness and frustration.
Struggles such as infidelity, loss of trust, intimacy issues, and unresolved past traumas can create significant distress in a relationship.
Couples therapy aims to help partners understand and break negative interaction patterns, fostering a safe space for expressing vulnerabilities and rebuilding emotional bonds. By addressing these core issues, couples therapy guides partners towards a more secure, loving, and resilient connection.
Couples therapy can help you and your partner foster deep emotional connections and express your needs and vulnerabilities safely.
By addressing issues together, you and your partner can:
develop healthier communication patterns
resolve conflicts more effectively
rebuild trust and intimacy
strengthen your relationship
feel heard, valued, and supported
transform a struggling relationship into a secure, loving partnership, better equipped to navigate future challenges together
Our Approach
When working with couples, we utilize the approach of Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as well as Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Gottman Method to promote emotional safety, improve communication, build trust, and increase intimacy between partners. Combined with Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Discernment Therapy, this approach helps us explore trauma while addressing areas like conflict resolution, friendship, and shared meaning.
Couples Therapy
We are dedicated to helping couples in understanding and resolving conflicts to enhance their relationships through Couples Therapy.
This impactful and dynamic approach helps both partners identify and manage recurring behavioral patterns, improving their communication, problem-solving capabilities, and ability to negotiate differences effectively.
Couples Therapy can enhance your communication, deepen understanding of each other’s perspectives, and foster greater empathy. It also improves problem-solving skills and helps identify the underlying causes of conflicts, enabling you to handle disagreements constructively.
For new relationships, couples therapy provides an opportunity to set healthy patterns and establish open communication from the start. For romantic couples considering marriage, it serves as a valuable platform for premarital counseling, where partners can discuss their values and shared goals. For those in long-term committed relationships or marriages, couples therapy offers strategies and insights that foster healthier, more fulfilling partnerships.
EMDR for Couples
EMDR for couples provides a unique approach to resolving interpersonal conflicts and deep-seated issues within relationships.
In couples therapy, EMDR enhances emotional intimacy, reduces reactivity to triggers, and improves communication. It allows partners to process unresolved emotions that obstruct intimacy and tackle specific relationship challenges such as jealousy or grief. This therapy also facilitates a better understanding of each other's perspectives, helps build a unified narrative, and promotes forgiveness for past hurts.
By addressing both individual and shared psychological issues through bilateral stimulation, EMDR serves as a comprehensive tool for couples striving to strengthen their relationships and effectively resolve conflicts. Couples can break free from old patterns and emotional blocks, fostering a deeper connection and healthier, more resilient partnerships.
Discernment Therapy
Discernment therapy is a specialized form of therapy designed for couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship and are considering options such as staying together, separating, or pursuing a divorce.
Unlike traditional couples therapy that aims to resolve relationship issues and improve communication to keep couples together, discernment therapy focuses on helping partners gain clarity and confidence about the direction of their relationship based on a deeper understanding of their relationship dynamics, individual needs, and potential paths forward.
This type of therapy is particularly helpful for couples where one partner is leaning towards ending the relationship while the other hopes to preserve it. The process involves a short-term commitment where the therapist helps each partner consider their options and decide whether they want to commit to resolving their relationship issues through therapy, move towards separation, or take a time-out to decide on the next steps. The goal is to help couples make a decision that feels right for both partners, based on a thorough understanding of their relationship and each other’s needs.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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Couples therapy is a form of counseling that helps partners better understand each other, improve communication, and work through challenges together. It can support couples at any stage, whether you’re navigating conflict, feeling disconnected, rebuilding trust, or simply wanting to strengthen your relationship in a more intentional way.
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No. Many couples begin therapy before problems feel overwhelming. Couples therapy can be helpful for addressing ongoing tension, improving communication, or working through transitions such as parenting, career changes, or life stress. Starting earlier often makes it easier to understand patterns and create healthier ways of relating to one another.
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It’s common for partners to feel differently about starting therapy. That hesitation can be part of the conversation. In early sessions, we focus on creating a balanced, respectful space where both people feel heard. You don’t need to agree on everything to begin—therapy can help clarify concerns and expectations together.
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Couples therapy can help with communication difficulties, frequent arguments, emotional distance, trust concerns, infidelity recovery, intimacy challenges, and navigating major life changes. It can also support couples who want to better understand their patterns and improve how they handle conflict, even if there isn’t one specific issue driving therapy.
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Sessions typically involve guided conversations where both partners have space to share their perspectives. The therapist helps slow things down, identify patterns, and support more effective communication. Sessions are structured but flexible, with a focus on understanding, connection, and practical steps that can be applied outside of therapy.
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No. The therapist’s role is to remain neutral and support the relationship as a whole. This means helping both partners feel heard and understood while exploring the dynamics between you. The focus is not on blame, but on recognizing patterns and finding healthier ways to respond to one another.
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The length of couples therapy varies depending on your goals and the issues you’re working through. Some couples come for short-term support around a specific concern, while others choose ongoing therapy for deeper work. We regularly check in to make sure therapy continues to feel useful and aligned with what you want.
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Couples therapy can still be helpful even if you’re unsure about the future of the relationship. Therapy can provide clarity, improve communication during difficult conversations, and support respectful decision-making. The goal is to help you navigate this stage thoughtfully, with honesty and care for both individuals involved.